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I may never have children because of the dog [Hello Counselor/ENG, THA/2019.02.04]

Glenn Chapman

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  1. ฉันสนับสนุนให้คนมีลูกในเวลาที่พร้อม เพราะในบั่นปลายชีวิตก็ต้องมีลูกนี้แหละท่จะดูแลเรา อย่าคิดพึ่งคนอื่นรึญาติพี่น้องเลยมันลำบากเขาเชื่อเถอะ

  2. Normal people: I'm leaving! AND IM TAKING THE KIDS

    Him: I'm leaving! AND IM TAKING THE DOG

  3. They shouldn’t keep persuade the husband to keep get a child, it’s the wife fault not even discuss about it before married, in south korea as they categorized as nation of lowest birth rate, one of it , it’s because the economy, they all saying same thing, they barely have enough money for living, and can’t buy house yet and having child is need lot money, especially when they grow up later and need lot money for school, university, so what the husband say is really reasonable, why they should have child if they going into debt, they may not have debt yet now, but how when if they have child?
    Even the wife mom understand why he doesn’t want kids,
    He even treat her wife well, and just want his wife life without stress and he just stop treating her nice because she keep bringing about child, he just want live happily together two of them, i think many people like this right now in this millennial era and it’s normal,
    I have friend who have child despite their economy not really good, they already have barely enough money for they living and raise their child, then suddenly their baby have a problem in lungs, and it cost around 5k usd for all the hospital fee, and my friend doesn’t even have that money, she almost have debt if me and my friends doesn’t give her donation for the hospital fee, and you cannot keep wishing you will get those donation every time this happening

  4. People, please talk to each other before you get married, seriously…. So many of these issues can be solved with simple communication but now you have a couple where neither one will truly be happy. Just sad

  5. I'm not sure any of them listened to the husband's beautiful thoughts for his wife

  6. Where i can find man like him? Its gonna be perfect since we have some idea about kid..

  7. well me and my husband decided to just be happy with our two dogs, I was sad at first but then I just realized myself that I do not want my child to suffer hardships in life and it definitely changed my perspective on having a child. We are still happy with no kids, less stress and worries..

  8. I mean, if one had an urge to have sex, one would make that happen (with a consenting partner). Is the issue deeper than not wanting to proliferate?
    I think he would be the most doting father, looking at the way he treats a dog

  9. I wouldn't want kids with this man anyway. He would blame the child for everything that is wrong with his life! Never try to change someone like this, you'll live to regret it.

  10. well, my opinion personally…it's a good thing that the husband had thought of the future, that starting a family is not a very easy responsibility. i'd like tat and i sincerely want to remind every couples tat are about to start a family, think/plan/discuss the issue!! i got really upset seeing all these "child abortion/dumping of newborn babies", "child abuse", "abusive family" , "raping own child" or even killing own family members cases happening everywhere these days!!!
    have or to not have a child…is not really a matter. the thing is r u and ur partner PREPARE to take up the responsibility of starting a family?!!!!!!

    but for the intimacy thing…..i guess the husband is a little too much…he doesnt really hv to avoid all intimacy interaction juz to prevent from having a child. juz remember to always practice safe sex.

  11. 12:21 I am also 22(korean age) I’ve never dated before, i always said that i wanted a boy child but after babysitting my boy cousins i think i may not want children or maybe just 1 child(hopefully a girl) lol

  12. Theres nothing wrong with either one of their positions but they definitely should not be together. They both have different wants and priorities in life, especially for something as important as being a parent that’s not something to compromise on. He definitely should have told her BEFORE they got deep into a relationship he didn’t want kids. That’s a valid choice and them trying to pressure him into it is based on societal norms is ridiculous. But marrying someone in a culture that treats divorce in an especially negative way, she’s also kind of trapped by societal and cultural pressures with someone who is now deciding whether she can be a mother or not. Hopefully they can go their separate ways and do what makes them both happy otherwise they’ll both be miserable.

  13. I think people are focusing too much on his choice not to have a baby, when in fact it isn't even just that, she said that he literally cares more about the dog than her most times which imo is more concerning than not wanting a baby – which is understandable. He really needs to respect her more…

  14. Tbh I feel the problem only occur bc they didnt discuss BEFORE marriage. But he is actually a good husband man, does household chores & works hard to give his fam a better life. As a GIRL myself, I feel the woman nids to be more receptive & understanding….. She dosent know how lucky she is…..

  15. I’m with the husband on this one. He doesn’t wanna have kids why are y’all forcing it down his throat

  16. Husband is suffering from childhood trauma. Once he is treated mentally he will come out of it. He is a gentleman though otherwise wife would have divorced him before

  17. Once again they seem to forget divorce is an option on show. I know it's uncomfortable to talk about divorce but it's even more uncomfortable to be an unwanted child and being resented by your parents who can't provide for you properly. I hate when people just have kids for any reason, it's human beongs life you're dealing with not a house plant. The planet's overpopulated anyway.

  18. The comments section are all saying divorce as if it's easy and they don't love each other.

  19. I dont want kids so I made sure to pick a partner that felt the same way. My heart goes out to the both of them.

  20. I think it was a mistake on both of their parts to not discuss such vital subjects. However, I think the wife is wrong on a few things on her own. She just assumed that he would want kids, never asked etc etc, then she takes him on national TV to attempt to get the nation, their community and the show to coerce him into something he clearly doesn't want. Then she went so far as to say " I don't think he really loves me, I think he married me for my dog, as away of guilt tripping him into giving her something in lou of this low self esteem she has. He of course is at fault for not discussing it as well. However, he made valid points as to why he doesn't want a child or children. He also treats his wife quite well. So its not even as if he sucks as a husband insisting on patriarchal standards. TBH I think that she should just find a different husband since she felt the need to go to these lengths. I wonder why she didn't discuss it privately with a therapist? Why bring him on national Tv, she really made herself look bad in my eyes. Not to mention her brothers comments were rather telling. As well as the fact that her husband stood up for her and explained why she had changed jobs so often. Sometimes people are not aware of how great they have it, to busy looking at outsiders and what they have but they don't.

  21. They don't understand the love he has for the dog, it's obviously not the same love he feels for his wife. They said it, the dog is like his child, and people tend to love/care for them more than their partners. I can understand him, I'm the same with my dog and when I have to travel I also ask for pictures. For some people it may sound stupid but I love my dog so much, my life is happier since I have him.

  22. Tbh..I know she brought the concern in, but I got to point fingers at her too. I don't remember hearing something like i wanted babiies from the beginning or it's been 3 years of me trying to have him give me a baby or so, so please tell me if im wrong. If not and she just brought up the issue recently while now being 36, then she's also at fault. If that's the case and I was the guy I'd be surprised like..after all this time??? But I don't think i want kids..kinda situation. Regardless as most have said if they didn't discuss this before marriage, they have themselves to blame. If they knew and went ahead ..welp again they can only blame themselves and either compromise on either having the baby(s) or not. It's a give and take situation. I just hope she isn't forcing and god forbid her ending up as one of those crazies who end up taking their lover in the middle of the night and saving their drippings just to be inserted like in movies😂 He has a right to not bear children

  23. What's so funny is they always complain on this show about fathers who work all day and don't spend time taking care of their kids. They say "why did you even have kids in the first place, if you're not willing to take care of them?!" Then we have this guy who knows in advance that he'll be bad at raising kids and that he can't afford it, and yet they tell him to go and have them anyway.

  24. This won't work. He totally has the right to not wanting a child but the fact that he is married make is worse. The only solution here is divorce. We can't force him to have a child because he will not take care of the baby as much as someone who wanted him/her you kow so idk :/ …..

  25. In my opinion, people should have the baby talk before they get married. Because now look one wants one and the other does not. A simple "Do you want to have kids in the future?" Will suffice. The answer will either be no never or yes when we are older.

  26. I feel so bad for the wife, but this matter should have been discussed before they got married

  27. I really don't understand. Is it so bad to not want kids ? I really think that even if the two love each others, they must divorce. They will never be happy.

  28. the title is wrong! its "i may never have children because my husband does not want to have one"
    clearly, this had nothing to do with the dog. with or without the dog, the husband doesn't want to have any child! dont blame everything to the pet!!!!! The problem was miscommunication BEFORE marriage.

  29. Why do I see the man getting a vasectomy before anyone pressures him to have kids to make his wife happy again? Because it is easy to lie that you have so many kids that the doctor would let you have it done 😂

  30. I appreciate his love for the dog and the time and attention he’s giving it. But my heart goes to the wife. She must be lonely. They are married for 3 years only but they don’t spend much time alone. He’s afraid she might “accidentally” get s pregnant so he’s avoiding her. Condoms are widely used in Korea. He’s just making alibis. He is inlove with the dog, not her. That’s for sure.

  31. I appreciate his love for the dog and the time and attention he’s giving it. But my heart goes to the wife. She must be lonely. They are married for 3 years only but they don’t spend much time alone. He’s afraid she might “accidentally” get s pregnant so he’s avoiding her. Condoms are widely used in Korea. He’s just making alibis. He is inlove with the dog, not her. That’s for sure.

  32. I appreciate his love for the dog and the time and attention he’s giving it. But my heart goes to the wife. She must be lonely. They are married for 3 years only but they don’t spend much time alone. He’s afraid she might “accidentally” get s pregnant so he’s avoiding her. Condoms are widely used in Korea. He’s just making alibis. He is inlove with the dog, not her. That’s for sure.

  33. Tbh I would’ve just left his ass AND TAKE MY DOG TO.

  34. Your issue with your partner is a clear cut ground for divorce. Irreconcilable diffenrence.

  35. Girl stop it already. That guy loves the pet more than you. So he can actually loose you but not the dog. Its a matter of preference, so if cannot live with it take the high road instead of wasting time and effort to convince your partner starting the path of acceptance that you are infact alone from the very start with your preference. Girl pack up and start a life that suits your taste.

  36. I also notice that the culture of self sacrifice, humility and selflessness are somewhat all new to them. Well i notice these in recent drama. Its like its not a given to them to have these qualities as an adult/matured being. Actually, fyi in some culture these values are already a part of the value system at a very young age.

  37. Now i understand korean dramas why most of them are illogical, selfcentered, and on cultural point evil minded. Coz in reality their social and psychological mind set are somewhat deviated from universal social norms and psychologically sound mind. I guess this is what we call cultural differences. But still i can't quite grasp their mind set coz there are what we call universal truth and universal social norms. From cultural stand point its simply too much I, ME, MYSELF value system of which psychological intervention is a far fetch attempt unless korean value system of I, ME, MYSELF will drastically change.

  38. What if they adopt an older kid like around 12 or older so that they can take care of themselves more and so the parents don't have to be as stressed as getting pregnant and having a baby.

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